Valentine’s Day!

If I’d been paying attention when I picked the second Tuesday of the month to write the post for SOS, I wouldn’t have. Because I’d have noticed right away that in February the second Tuesday is Valentine’s Day.  Not my favorite holiday. hearts-and-butterflies

You might ask, “How is that possible?” Everyone here writes romantic suspense in one form or another. Don’t you have to love Valentine’s Day? Well, no you don’t. I love romance and ODed on Hallmark Christmas movies to the point I considered writing a story for one of those movies, but I do hate the pressure of Valentine’s Day. I hate that we divide people into two groups.

  • Those kids in school who receive lots of Valentines and those who don’t.
  • Women who have a guy and those who don’t.
  • Those who receive the best Valentine’s gift (a ring) and those who receive nothing.

I was one of those kids who moved a lot, so I was always the new kid on the block and frequently didn’t get many if any Valentines. (Thankfully, teachers have become more sensitive about this and now generally insist that if a student brings cards, they must bring one for every child.) Obviously, this happened many years ago, but the hurt remains.

It’s the kind of thing that can give a character in a book a tragic flaw. The thing that motivates them maybe not in a good way. Maybe she’s the girl who sets out to hurt the girl who is with the boy she likes. Maybe she does more than key her car or send ugly notes. Maybe she kills the other girl so she can have the guy.



Okay, sorry. Apologies. This is a Valentine’s post after all. My brain just took off like it does sometime.

I have good memories as a young married of fixing a great meal, setting the table with the china, and lighting the candles. My sweet husband always brought flowers. In fact, for many years, he brought flowers for absolutely no reason. That was the best.photo56 fullsizerender-4

Most days he works late. He’s a very busy lawyer. And Valentines is on a Tuesday after all. Not like a Friday or Saturday night. A few restaurants still had openings as of our Saturday paper. And we usually, eat out on the weekends anyway, so we get lots of nice restaurant meals.

hearts-and-butterfliesValentine’s needs to be about friends and telling them “I love you.”  Helping others to show how much you love them. And yes, of course, it needs to be about chocolate.


But then any day can be about chocolate.

How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Do you have reservations at a fancy restaurant? Are you cooking a special meal at home? Or are you a bit like me and just want to enjoy your chocolate and wine and move on? I hope your Valentine’s Day is whatever you need it to be. Love to hear from you.

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